Misunderstanding?

Cynthia Enloe writes "One of the most disturbing feminist insights is that 'the personal is Political'. Disturbing, because it means that relationships we once imagined were private or merely social are in fact infused with power, usually unequal power backed up by public authority." In reading this i wonder if we are leaving something out of our definitions of what is masculine and what is feminine. Maybe masculine is what is public and obvious, while feminine is private and discreet. I think in our readings and in our discussions we might be overlooking the power of femininity. Maybe we underestimate the power of private relationships. If we think about it this way, there have been many men...powerful men....that have put their careers and reputations on the line for a woman (i.e. Bill Clinton). I think that which is feminine is sort or "mysterious" in a way (bear with me i am going somewhere with this). Many men and women would agree that "femininity" is a complex thing....hard for those who are not feminine to understand and hard for those who are to explain. For this reason maybe the reason why masculine figures try to suppress feminine ones is because they can not understand them and for that reason fear them. If we think about why people and groups engage in conflict....it's because we see the opposing side as the "other." That's all i've got for right now but i might come back to this in my personal response.